If you and your husband have recently gone through a life change or realize that you’re drifting apart, it is time to get to know one another again!
The best way to jump-start this process is by asking open-ended questions.
An open-ended question is a question that elicits a descriptive response instead of a “yes” or “no” answer.
For example, “What was the best part of your day?” (open-ended question) versus “How was your day?” (closed-ended question).
These two questions will give you two entirely different responses.
If you ask, “How was your day?” you will likely hear, “good” or “ok,” (a short, non-descriptive response).
If, however, you ask your husband, “What was the best part of your day?” he will share details that will bring you into his day, experiences, feelings, and what matters to him.
Getting To Know Your Spouse Again
Putting this curiosity into practice on a deeper level in your marriage will strengthen your bond.
While it is essential to ask your husband about his day, you also need to ask open-ended questions that grant you access to his inner world.
You need to ask questions that will provide information into what he thinks about, worries about, his goals, aspirations, and what makes him who he is today.
Here are a few examples:
- “What are you most looking forward to this year?”
- “What is one goal you want to achieve in the next five years?”
- “What is your favorite part about being a Dad?”