Let’s face it if you’re a new mom, or a mom for that matter, you have been rude to your husband. It just comes with the territory.
Maybe you’ve been critical, judgemental, irritable, short, or even said hurtful or unkind words during an argument.
Maybe you yell at him. Push him away when he moves close to you. Wait for him to apologize first. Or give him the cold shoulder.
If you’ve done any of the above, I promise you are not alone.
I’ve been there too.
We’ve all been there.
BEING MARRIED WITH CHILDREN IS HARD
Marriage is HARD.
Marriage after having kids is even HARDER!
All couples have their dark moments. All couples say things that they wish they could take back. All married individuals react, overreact, avoid, ignore, push to get their needs met, and withdraw from time to time.
We are in a constant dance with our spouse. Swaying back and forth, hoping not to “step on each other’s toes.” But we are not always at our best.
AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE IS NORMAL AFTER BABY
After a baby is born, couples struggle. In fact, 70% of couples struggle, that’s more than half!
Sleep deprivation, lack of self-care, fear, anxiety, stress, too much to do with little time, competing needs, and plain overwhelm all increase irritability in a marriage.
Avoidance, conflict, and resentment all increase distance in a marriage, which will leave you feeling sad, disappointed, and lonely.
And while this is all a normal part of the transition to parenthood, it doesn’t feel good.
I know you don’t want to be rude to your husband. You don’t want to fight. You don’t want to feel distant, but you feel stuck and lost.
You feel like he doesn’t understand what you’re going through. He isn’t helping enough. He’s still getting his needs met while you’re drowning.
THE RESENTMENT IS BUILDING
To stop the resentment from bubbling over, you have to make a change.
And yes, the change begins with you because you are the one reading this article.
YOU HAVE TO BE THE ONE TO CHANGE FIRST
To get your love back on track, you have to begin to focus on the good. You have to acknowledge all that your husband does do and how he contributes. And you have to remember what you love most about him and why you married him.
You also have to start being kind, loving, thoughtful, present, and available.
You have to express your love, make him feel valued, and put effort into reconnecting as a couple, not just as co-parents.
Again, this begins with you because you are the one reading this article.
TREAT YOUR HUSBAND THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED
The hope is that as you begin to shift the way you interact, your tone of voice, your view of your husband, and your overall demeanor in your marriage, the more he will change along with you, and the better your relationship will become.
In short, treat others (your husband) the way you want to be treated.
21 LOVING TEXTS TO SEND YOUR HUSBAND
So to help you get started at the most basic level, I’ve compiled a list of 21 loving texts to send your husband.
These texts are thoughtful, attuned to his needs, and express love.
These texts are an effort to start the repair needed in your marriage.
They are an effort to be more loving and thoughtful during your day, to communicate your feelings, and to get back the love that has been lost… helping you chip away at the resentment.
This list includes 21 texts with the goal that you will send one text per day for the next three weeks (which is how long it takes to form a habit – 21 days).
At the end of the 21 days, you should not only feel closer to your husband, but it should feel more natural communicating lovingly with him daily.
If you’re ready to boost your marriage, make your husband feel loved, and inspire him to make you feel the same, download these 21 texts and send him the first one right away (even if you’re sitting in the same room right now).
REAL WIFE LESSONS: It’s normal to have marital issues after having kids, but allowing resentment to fester will only hurt your relationship. Instead, when you put effort into being kind and loving, you will begin to repair and feel closer as a couple. Download 21 Loving Texts to Send Your Husband and start rebuilding your relationship today!