“We want to learn how to stop fighting,” Diana told me during her first session with her new husband Tim. After just 8 months of marriage, Diana and Tim entered marriage counseling. Although they loved each other very much, they had begun fighting more regularly and were feeling increasingly insecure and unsure about their relationship. In other words, they worried that they had made a mistake marrying one another.
During their first session Diana and Tim shared details about their arguments. They reported that most of the time they were unable to resolve conflict and ended up fighting for days. Instead of hearing one another and working towards healing, they often fought until they were exhausted and both felt hurt, disappointed,