This is probably the most common question I hear from the clients I work with (“Can my marriage be saved?”).  Afraid, frustrated, disappointed, and scared, couples enter my office looking for answers and a solution.  Paralyzed and disappointed, they report attempts to get the relationship back on track.  They share feelings of helplessness, exhaustion, and overwhelm.  They doubt that the bond they once shared can be repaired and they begin to flirt with the idea of divorce.

In my experience, most couples do not enter their marriage thinking about divorce.  Engaged couples I see for premarital counseling almost always state that “divorce is not an option.” However, as time passes and life becomes more complicated, resentments can build and couples often begin to experience emotional distance in their relationship.  Perpetual arguments dominate their interactions (“You never do anything around here.”  “All you do is nag me.”  “You left your clothes on the floor.”), and soon it can feel like nothing will get better, nothing will change.

If this sounds familiar to you, you’re

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